My dad’s favorite “mantra”. He believed it, but more importantly he lived it. I realized why I have been so “crazed” lately. Not because I am stressed about everything on my “to do list”. Not because it’s almost Christmas and there is still stuff to do. But because I am stressed about everything on my “bucket list”. Because I want to LIVE with NO regrets. And LOVE with NO regrets. I – all of a sudden – feel like there is not enough time in the world. Not enough time to be with your kids, really BE with them as they quickly get out of babyhood, past toddler, into Elementary school… it’s just too fast. I know it’s too fast. I know I enjoy every little minute of it / them. I love it. But lately I feel this need to do more. Be more. To them, to myself, to my husband, and to my friends. Am I succeeding? Not sure. If I am something is sacrificed. (At the time of print it is probably at the expense of my run down body!) You know the drill — up before sunrise to get in a workout, quick breakfast before our walk to school, clients, house clean-up, pick up kids, homework, play, anything on agenda day by day, etc. And then special time with each member of your family! Never forget that one. Of course – it’s ALL fun. It’s ALL stuff I have chosen. But it is still tough to keep up. I know I am not alone. It’s just reality. Not enough time in each day…..
I remember going to a motivational speaker when I was younger who told us we don’t really HAVE to do anything in life. I guess you could argue that you have to go to the bathroom, eat, drink. OK, that’s covered. (not the point). But – anything else? You don’t have to go to work (of course there would be some consequences to that decision), you don’t have to take a shower, you don’t have to take your car to the shop…. You NEED to do things. You WANT to do things.
You have unlimited choices about how you choose to live your life. If you aren’t happy with that choice – make another one! Each choice and decision will undoubtedly have a consequence but think for a minute about living with that consequence and how it will make you feel.
Try it yourself. Exclude the word “HAVE TO” from your dictionary. If you have kids, don’t tell them they HAVE to do anything.
Need to. Want to.
Start saying no to the things that don’t make you happy.
Slow down and focus on the truly important facets of life.
Keep loving, keep living, and keep having no regrets!!